Take it Slow
As women, we start feeling entitled to things we feel we've earned due to cooking, cleaning, caring for, and having sex with men who have yet to actually commit for the long-term haul. We eventually stress out our love interest because we're so focused on the next level too quickly. Take it very slow and be his friend FIRST! If you're worth something, don't worry...he notices. His approach may look different when he respects you, but trust that he's watching how you respond to his grind and whether you're worth the investment. Be more patient with the good men trying to get on their feet!
When you rush the title of "What are we?" before establishing trust it nearly always fails because there is no learned loyalty established to even form obligation for consideration. Be patient; build friendship first. Connect, learn, and grow through the bond. Do it this way and the "What are we?" will reveal itself without force.